Spanish weddings do not include bridesmaids or groomsmen.The couple stands together at the altar with no one else in attendance. Also, the groom's mother accompanies him down the aisle.However, times have now changed and today's brides and grooms exchange the coins as a symbol of the wealth and finances they will equally share.In Spain, the (wedding ring) is worn on the ring finger of the right hand.Nice and healthy, with hips big enough to ensure that the eventuality of bearing children is attainable.Prossy, a very skinny and plain looking girl from Northern Uganda, had been dating a lawyer for three years, but had always wondered why she never met his family or his friends.
Now what kind of man would allow himself to be taken advantage of in this manner? Peter Barigye (not real name) works at a prestigious accountancy firm. “This girlfriend of mine thinks I’m stupid, but I’m biding my time”, he assured me. After about six months, it eventually dawned on him that in her eyes, he was ‘just a friend’.
Instead, it is a purely symbolic gesture acknowledging (but never paying off) the husband's permanent debt to the wife's parents.
Dowry exists in societies where capital is more important than manual work.
This is just an example of how Ugandan men do not regard women as independent-thinking human beings but as property to be used and disposed of at will. A man will not marry a woman for her fine intellect. That may be what he thinks but he and the woman in question are actually deluded.
Like the proverbial African male, he will look for someone who is ‘presentable’ to his family.